We live in a shell. We can define it as our brain, our body or our social circle, but it is a shell. It is such a pity that we have such limited sight, because the world contains nets and relationships of amazing and terrifying information which would make us understand so many things and reactions. Only with knowledge we can judge and make the right decisions and even when it is impossible to absorb all information available, we have to try to absorb as much as possible to judge with the best intention. Because if we judge without knowledge, it is only our decision and our harm to the results.
And yet people are judgemental (understand judgemental as non-empathetic judging without full knowledge of the situation). They love judging others according to their appearance. It is so easy, because their destiny is clear, their past is clear. But we should learn that nothing is clear. Nothing is black and white.
If we do not know the background of the case well, we should live and decide in a way that the object is not clear and done. The things around us are constantly open. Not only because everything is constantly changing, but there is always something we don’t know about the person/situation/thing.
But we like thinking that we know the best. Because we know so much – which is our feeling from the fact that we are the ones knowing about everything that is in our brain. And from the others we know only about the upper layer that they reveal to the world.
But think about that we are all equal. We all want the same. We have our minor differences which we were born with or the surroundings taught us, but after all we all want someone to love us and to love someone, we want to be somehow successful, we want to achieve something, no matter if we are achieving career as lawyers, having big healthy family, traveling all countries in the world or just having a happy calm life. Think about this when you see someone walking on the street in clothes that you don’t like. Think about it when you decide that someone is bad based on his piercing. Yes, of course, there are deviations. There are people that have black thoughts. But honestly, those we usually don’t recognize easily. Let’s think about it next time before we judge based on the first impression.
Two groups that we love judging nowadays are homeless people and from the broader picture Muslims.
Did you know that a big number of homeless people are homeless because they are not able to take care of themselves due to psychical problems?
As for the other group - Hands up who read Quran and hands up who read Bible (and remembers them, I don’t mean that mandatory reading at school that you don’t remember anything from). So how much can you actually say about these religions? And I mean facts that you truly read by yourself and saw a Muslim doing personally with your own eyes.
There are about 1.8 billion Muslims worldwide which is about a quarter of the whole population, while we know about a few people that are vicious – maybe thousands – and based on them we decided to judge the rest. Like someone could judge you based on the fact that Hitler was white and you are as well. White people did harm, black people did harm, Christians did, Muslims did, but we can’t say the race or religion is bad for that, can we? The fact that your neighbour is a thief doesn’t make you a thief, because you live in the same building, and you wouldn’t be happy for being called one for this reason.
And about the fact that they have some ugly treatments written in Quran - In Bible, there are even worse treatments mentioned. We do not practice them in the 21st century anymore and they don’t as well. Some freaks that point them out don’t make it true for the rest.
When you decide to judge, be careful about the source of the knowledge, too. When someone tells you, something is written in Quran, he is possibly just using the fact that you didn’t read it – it is possibly not written there at all.
This is true for all media and all other cases. Media is an interesting source. Its owner can decide if they want to make a show or give true information. With time, people that have the knowledge to decide if the information is true or not either get to know it is a trustful media or those people that don’t have the knowledge to decide if it is true or not grab rather the paper with bigger advertisements. Basically, media can play with words to say almost anything if it is not illegal. And again, we are here by ourselves to decide if we want to judge based on their information or if we want to gain more knowledge to be able to distinguish if the news are fake or interpreted wrongly or not.
Being judgemental about these two groups is concerning only some percentage of people, but prejudice is concerning almost all of us in every day life.
Knowledge is our weapon to the false information and prejudice. Try to not judge without knowledge.
What to do to avoid being judgemental?
Let’s not be harsh and let’s not regret our behaviour. Let’s not be judgmental. When we put our differences together, we can achieve great things.